wednesday morning thoughts...entry 10

Good morning all friends..finally im here again...after finding out that on wednesday the pc makes a automatically update...wich i came up with the word i always say ....our patiences are being tested over and over again..the internet is being soooo slow and i download pictures with a lot of trouble...

you might ask yourself what i am up to...these days...well waiting glady  the month of may...to fix my backyard and front yard...so in the summer we can enjoy some time with the family and that it be finished for the winter..as we getting old we cant... keep grass and that kind of gardening but i love gardening..flowers home decorations..all of it...its a part of a woman...

 i had a ???.... with someone at work wich  i was amazed that the lord give me the patiences and wisdom to handle that..was my sister in the lord and coworker...we all have a bad day...but still the lord show me that i have to pray for her and love her...speaking about agape love !


this post seems little strange but huub and i were talking about agape love...only jesus had that...its difficult...really difficult...not letting our emotions speak...and instead just do what God ask us.to ..but im learning that..


i have being dealing with an issue here...
people ask me the whole time (singel christian ladys ) how do i now when a man is send from God to be your husband ?





have you experienced this ?


You met someone that is

 truthful, open and honest. He takes you out to dinner and doesn't expect anything in return and makes all the right noises about his interest in being committed. 

 how can you tell when you've really picked the right guy?

Read on:

some men who wants to marry you by Date 2. if he is so  anxious to be married, don't you think he is the one ? , most men who start out very intensely burn out very quickly. After all, you don't think you are the only one he's ever been that crazy about, do you? Settle instead for someone who calls, texts or emails you a reasonable number of times. And one who has reasonable expectations of your relationship. Allow your relationship to begin at a slower pace and develop naturally - this will help it to last.

Okay, he makes a lot of money, money isnt a reason to marry a man..even a man that works and take care of his family is the best... but he hasn't always made a lot of money. And he probably wasn't always the most fiscally responsible person in the world. So don't let him lead you to believe otherwise. Also, he's done both good and bad in his past, so be on the lookout if he colors all his stories in his favor. Look for someone he gives you a fair and balanced re-telling of past struggles, issues or relationships. And, speaking of relationships:

 He doesn't blame his last girlfriend for all of their problems.

If he begins his stories about his ex with phrases like, 'she mistreated me', 'she was no good', 'I tried to make it work, but she refused to try', or 'she was nothing but a manipulator', run far, far away! As previously mentioned, he has done both good and bad in his past. And this goes double for anything he did in his last relationship. She may not have been perfect, but he definitely wasn't either. There are three sides to every story - his side, her side and the truth. Try to find someone who gets as close to the 'truth' as possible.

 He's consistent.

Remember how he used to call you five times a day? It's okay if it goes down to once or twice (a day), but once or twice a week? That's something to worry about. And don't accept the excuse that he all of a sudden doesn't have time. Somehow, he found time before, right? It takes two minutes to place a phone call, send an email or text message. Hold him accountable. But, on the flip side, if he only called you once or fewer times per day, don't expect him to start calling three or four times a day now. Observe his original pattern. Learn it. And see how close (or how far) he strays from it. There are few things worse than inconsistency in someone of whom you have greater epxectations.

. His actions follow his words.

This goes two ways: he doesn't make promises he doesn't intend to keep and he does what he says he's going to do. He doesn't promise to spend more time with you this weekend if he knows he's going to be tied up in meetings. And he remembers to bring you a cheeseburger from McDonald's on his way home from work (like he said he would). Don't trust a man that constantly breaks his promises or makes promises he doesn't keep.

This is my short and sweet list, but feel free to comment and let me know of other traits that I'm sure to have missed! I'm also interested in hearing success stories from others who have found 'the one'.